Please remember these simple facts.
Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are. Who is also earning almost as much as you do.
One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are.
One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements.
One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do, for 20-25 years of her life.
One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family name.
One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen.
One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain.
To be a cook, a mother, a wife, a caretaker even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you.
One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities.
Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise.
One, who you expect can be late from work, only when dead.
Be grateful & generous to her, cause she does all of this without cribbing or complaining (she made have a few mood swings), only for you and the happiness of your family.
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I have rarely come across someone who understands women so well. your bhaiya was the first one and now you, so I think it really runs in the family! proud to be a part of this family:) the difference is your bhaiya is not the kind of person who has been described in the blog but just the opposite, touchwood. but you have beautifully penned down the emotions, feeling of a girl/ woman who gets married and doesn't know how to live her life and handle this big change, is so confused and slowly she gets the hang of it. One of the best pieces I have read on this subject though!!! Kudos Jaitabh:)
If its wat u really thinks...I must say then hats off fr this 1...though evry 1 claims to live in a modern society but wen it cms to gals they all or most of them hv a vry narrow mindset...glad to c u r nt 1 among them.
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